I'd love to say that the news was great, that it was more positive than we expected but saying that would be a lie. Truth is the dragon is bigger and raging more than we knew. What we were told was a stage 2 squamous cell carcinoma is now redefined a stage IV-A. Not only are two lymph nodes involved but also a third. We spent two weeks getting used to stage 2 and suddenly in a spoken word it is worse. Last night I cried so much. Tim just held me while I sobbed and let me get make-up on his shirt. I just want someone to wake me up and tell me this is all a bad dream; tell me that this isn't really happening.
We didn't plan to have an appointment with the oncologist yesterday, only the ENT who would refer us to him, but we unexpectedly got to see Dr. K. Tim and I both liked him. He was confident in what he does but not arrogant. There is a huge difference. We want confidence, not arrogance.
As we entered the world of the Markey Cancer Center I felt almost dizzy as I looked around at the people. You know that everyone that is there has had the cancer dragon invade their lives. Some have had a personal invasion, others have had an invasion by proxy -- someone they dearly love has been invaded. It's a sad place. No amount of cheerful colored paint or pretty wallpaper changes the reasons people are there. Each of them has a story as they wait. And we have a story. An audible voice in my head asks WHY are we here? How did we get here? Is this really happening?
I am here to tell you that while it is Tim that has cancer, our whole family has cancer. And I am afraid that right now our children don't know just what cancer means but the time is coming, and soon, that they will see the raging dragon. But when they see the raging dragon they will also see the knight that is fighting hard to defeat the dragon. He is the perfect knight -- he is strong, he is so full of faith, he is willing to battle, he is capable of defeating Cancer. He is still my knight. His armor hasn't faded with time. He rescued me almost 24 years ago and now it is my turn to rescue him with love and with caring for him while his armor is being buffed.